Suicide Bombers Why do they do it, and what does Islam say about their actions?

"And fight in the way of Allah those who fight you.  But do not transgress limits.  Truly Allah loves not the transgressors."

- Qur'an, Surah Al-Baqarah (2:190)
As i sat down with my muslim friend from Nupe one of the core muslim tribes in Nigeria. I asked him several questions about this suicide bombings, having seen friends of mine who have been mutilated, killed and maimed, it beats my heart and i asked him these questions as above.

On several occasion revenge, rage, boils down through my veins, but when i sit with other muslim friends or chat them up on facebook, i see something so different about them and then i asked them to see just a portion of the Quran or the words of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).   in support of all these; i found non.

The dangerous escalation of violence in the world is disturbing to all people of conscience, from September 11 to the Middle East battles, and other random acts of violence perpetrated at innocent civilians.

In Islam, several things are clear:

Suicide is forbidden.  "O ye who believe!... [do not] kill yourselves, for truly Allah has been to you Most Merciful.  If any do that in rancour and injustice, soon shall We cast him into the Fire..." (Qur'an 4:29-30).

The taking of life is allowed only by way of justice (i.e. the death penalty for murder), but even then, forgiveness is better.  "Nor take life - which Allah has made sacred - except for just cause..." (17:33).
In pre-Islamic Arabia, retaliation and mass murder was commonplace.  If someone was killed, the victim's tribe would retaliate against the murderer's entire tribe.  This practice was directly forbidden in the Qur'an (2:178-179).

 Following this statement of law, the Qur'an says, "After this, whoever exceeds the limits shall be in grave chastisement" (2:178).  No matter what wrong we perceive as being done against us, we may not lash out against an entire population of people.

The Qur'an admonishes those who oppress others and transgress beyond the bounds of what is right and just.  "The blame is only against those who oppress men with wrongdoing and insolently transgress beyond bounds through the land, defying right and justice.  For such there will be a chastisement grievous (in the Hereafter)" (42:42).

Harming innocent bystanders, even in times of war, was forbidden by the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him).  This includes women, children, noncombatant bystanders, and even trees and crops.  Nothing is to be harmed unless the person or thing is actively engaged in an assault against Muslims....By Huda, Islam Expert

Revenge, hatred or even these killings are totally baseless and whether we like it or not, we will pay for every blood we have spilled one way or the other.

My country men and women, i grew up planning on a revenge spree to the pains i had gone through as a child. one of the pains of which my father's leg was amputated not a disease, accident, or act of God, but by men of the underworld, or is it the Boko Haram killings of dear and close family members? What do i gain if i made  someone a martyr or a saint! Well by planning to kill unsuspecting individuals, bystanders, market women,children, even your political enemies, you have only made them heroes, Sts, Martyrs and succeeded in making a coward out of yourselves.

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