IF YOU ARE NOT CRITICISED, THEN YOU HAVE NO ATOM OF GLORY IN YOU! SO FORGIVE AND DELETE.
"No one ever kicks a dead dog" -- Dale Carnegie
There are two types of critics. One comes from a place of love, another from a place of fear or envy. To receive positive criticism is one thing, but to suffer negative criticism is another.
To be criticized with negative intention means that you have aroused something within someone else such as jealousy or a feeling of inadequacy.
In order for the critic to feel better and elevated somehow, they need to put other people down. When someone condemns our work, comments unkindly on our appearance, judges our parenting style or disapproves of any of our actions, it is a pure and total reflection of them, not us.
Take relief and comfort that a critic's words actually have nothing to do with you at all.(perhaps they just wished you could bow your horns)
"I was so sensitive when I first started blogging. I was shocked at the venom of online commenters. It still isn't nice when I receive harsh comments but over time I have really learned to let go of it and understand that is not about me at all. Rather today, my critics are still the source of my wealth...trust me on this vivian" Linda Ikeji.
picture credit-underdarock.
Like i will tell you now, When a critic, in person or online or whatever form they take, makes the effort to write or comment about you, it means you are affecting people somehow. They are using their time and attention to talk about you. You are not being ignored. Funnily enough, being the subject of someone's criticism is a flattering thing.
As Gabby Bernstein says, "forgive and delete!" Sometimes some responses can be helpful as they point out something that YOU never considered or they highlight a different way of looking at something. But in the end, YOU have to approve of YOUR work and trust that YOU are always learning and improving. The more confident you feel in who you are, the less influenced you are by negativity. The way you let criticism impact you is a great barometer of how strong you are becoming.
My mom always told me that you can't please everyone, so please yourself. There will always be people who disagree with you or who dislike your ideas and actions -- whether or not these people are coming from a positive or a negative place.
Appreciate and accept them for being different than you and forgive them if they upset you. Remember that the road to success invites a lot of critics so the sooner you know what to take on board and what to release, the better. The fact that criticism exists at all also reminds us that all we can do is our best -- speak our truth, deliver our best work and surrender the rest.
And as one of my favorite books, The Magic of Thinking Big, says, "Expect critics, its proof you are growing." And on the ladder of growth is the only place to be.
There are two types of critics. One comes from a place of love, another from a place of fear or envy. To receive positive criticism is one thing, but to suffer negative criticism is another.
To be criticized with negative intention means that you have aroused something within someone else such as jealousy or a feeling of inadequacy.
In order for the critic to feel better and elevated somehow, they need to put other people down. When someone condemns our work, comments unkindly on our appearance, judges our parenting style or disapproves of any of our actions, it is a pure and total reflection of them, not us.
Take relief and comfort that a critic's words actually have nothing to do with you at all.(perhaps they just wished you could bow your horns)
"I was so sensitive when I first started blogging. I was shocked at the venom of online commenters. It still isn't nice when I receive harsh comments but over time I have really learned to let go of it and understand that is not about me at all. Rather today, my critics are still the source of my wealth...trust me on this vivian" Linda Ikeji.
picture credit-underdarock.
Like i will tell you now, When a critic, in person or online or whatever form they take, makes the effort to write or comment about you, it means you are affecting people somehow. They are using their time and attention to talk about you. You are not being ignored. Funnily enough, being the subject of someone's criticism is a flattering thing.
As Gabby Bernstein says, "forgive and delete!" Sometimes some responses can be helpful as they point out something that YOU never considered or they highlight a different way of looking at something. But in the end, YOU have to approve of YOUR work and trust that YOU are always learning and improving. The more confident you feel in who you are, the less influenced you are by negativity. The way you let criticism impact you is a great barometer of how strong you are becoming.
My mom always told me that you can't please everyone, so please yourself. There will always be people who disagree with you or who dislike your ideas and actions -- whether or not these people are coming from a positive or a negative place.
Appreciate and accept them for being different than you and forgive them if they upset you. Remember that the road to success invites a lot of critics so the sooner you know what to take on board and what to release, the better. The fact that criticism exists at all also reminds us that all we can do is our best -- speak our truth, deliver our best work and surrender the rest.
And as one of my favorite books, The Magic of Thinking Big, says, "Expect critics, its proof you are growing." And on the ladder of growth is the only place to be.
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