Frustrated or Depressed As A Single or Married Man? Here is How To Step up.

Hang around Christian singles long enough and you're sure to encounter a certain emotion. If you're thinking loneliness, guess again. The prevailing emotion is frustration and depression.So many men are depressed yet they try to hide it. Come on guys, being single is very depressing for a guy as it is for a woman.

Men are frustrated because they don't understand what women want from them. Or, if they do have a clue, men feel the expectations are too high. Women, on the other hand, are frustrated because they want men to take initiative, to lead.


That's right, lead. Don't believe everything you hear; Christ-centered women still believe that God assigned respective roles to the sexes. They want to be led by Christ-centered men.

So what's to be done about the stalemate? How should Christian men and women move toward deeper friendship, possibly even engagement and marriage?

Initiating the relationship

It takes a man to be an initiator. Relationship building with the opposite sex is risky, but in God's created order two become one (Ephesians 5:31). However, this will never happen until you, as a man, accept your God-given role—an acceptance that includes:

believing that men should initiate the relationship,
understanding that preparing yourself for a relationship is part of becoming a man.
This may sound old-fashioned, but I believe it not for the sake of tradition, which of necessity comes and goes, but because it is biblical.

Brace up yourself. Lest you remain a loner.

Are you already lonely? So how does a man prepare himself to step away from loneliness.... well lets say spiritually? By seeking God with all his heart. To do this, he must embrace his loneliness, grief, disappointment, hurt—any and all circumstances that have brought him to this place of aloneness. Embracing the hurt ushers in the comfort, and comfort is delivered by God Himself. Spend more time in prayer. Spend more time studying the Bible. Read Christian literature that instructs and edifies. Attend Bible study or discussion groups. Involve yourself in service. Step out of the world of self-pity and into a life that is marked by Kingdom purposes and activities. Give more than you take.

Until next time....bye.