Make Sure You Do This To Fully Heal Your Broken Heart.

Grief is healthy and it is healing.” ~Richard Moss

When I was a little girl there was this belief floating around in my head that there was only one person. One person who was my soulmate. One person who could love me. I think the belief was formed by some concoction of Disney movies, religion, and African culture.

What’s worse than this belief is that I somehow found myself afraid that I wouldn’t even have one person. I was afraid I would be alone. Forever.

I don’t know when I adopted the belief that I wasn’t enough, that I might not find someone, that I was unlovable. My mom did her best to reassure me, but it didn’t quite do the trick.

Self-love is the work we have to do ourselves. No one else can give us that gift, no matter how young we happen to be. 

Into my third decade of life I did the deep work that led me to discover what it actually meant love myself. My life transformed in so many incredible ways, and then I no longer worried about whether there was someone out there who would love me. I knew I was lovable, and by more than one person.

Please do not indulge any thought that attacks yourself or even your ex-boyfriend. Grief is healthy and it is healing.

So  work on loving yourself instead. Work on seeing the truth of who you are in each moment. The truth I found was this: I am worth loving. I am enough. I am lovable. I am beautiful. I am whole. All of this is true right now, in every single moment I am living. 

You Too can live that life and be happy. True love would always come your way.