Was The Columnist Wrong? Says Rape Victim Should Be Happy He Wore A Condom.
The dispute began when the magazine printed a reader letter in the 'Dear Kelly' column entitled 'Raped after lying to my mum'.
The girl described how a boy who she had been dating had raped her after she had drunk wine for the first time.
They began dancing, then the girl wrote: "..there was cuddling and kissing and he started undressing me.
"I had too much to drink and did not protest.
"I don’t remember anything after this and the next morning, I found myself naked in bed with him and he said: “Wow! I didn’t know you were a virgin, honey!"
Chopard said in reply: "You gave the idea that everything was OK, you accepted wine, then there was the dancing, kissing.
"You can’t blame him for thinking a sexual connection was all right. Frankly, I understand why the guy misunderstood."
Chopard described the girl as "naive and inexperienced", adding that she should "be grateful that he wore a condom so there is little fear of an unplanned pregnancy or STD."
Responding to criticism on their Facebook page, Teenage magazine wrote: "Many of you have raised concerns that Kelly’s response swayed towards victim-blaming and condonation of rape.
"It is to be stated that Teenage does not condone rape or victim-shaming in any way.
"Before we share Kelly's response on the matter, we would like to deeply apologise.
"Kelly's reply was largely focused on helping vulnerable girls understand the need to not place themselves in risky situations despite knowing the possible consequences.
"In no way does this mean that they deserve to be blamed.
"It simply means that they have to know how to protect themselves in a society where the definition of consent is still unclear to many."
But the statement was slammed and taken by many as a 'non-apology'.
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