Marriage is for Better or for Worse Except You Stop That Negative Vows Only Then Can You Leave

 


When two people wed, they typically exchange vows that say something to the effect of promising to be together for better and for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and bad, and so on. However, how many people really think about what that vow all entails? Of course we think about the ‘better’ and ‘richer’ and ‘good times,’ and that’s basically what we’re getting married for – all the good stuff, but many people fail to realize that you aren’t promising to stay together IF some bad stuff should possibly happen to you, you’re promising to stay together WHEN the bad stuff absolutely DOES happen to you, as it MOST CERTAINLY will. Nope, we just gloss right over that part.


 We think that the ‘bad stuff’ must happen to other people, maybe people that aren’t as ‘in love’ as we are, or maybe people who aren’t as smart or kind as we are. People from bad families, people from broken homes, people who aren’t trying hard enough. Well, that’s just a fantasy. In every marriage, some bad things WILL happen. That’s just all there is to it. There is absolutely no one on the planet that is immune from bad things. In many marriages, truly freak occurrences happen – the husband gets his arm caught in a machine at work and loses a hand, the wife is walking home from the grocery store and is just struck dead by a motorist, a 29-year old man drops dead from a heart attack, and so on.

These are the things we cross our fingers and hope that they never happen to us. Actually, when those types of things happen, for the most part, people deal with them pretty well.

 For example, your company closes and you lose your job, the battery on your car dies and you are without a ride for several days, you put too many things in your calendar and neglect your fitness and gain weight, your parents die, you have some sort of surgery, and so on. These are normal, predictable, yet uncontrollable bad things that most certainly will happen to one spouse or the other at some point in a life-long marriage. It is exactly that type of thing that the marital vows are speaking to.

 The people who leave ‘bad’ marriages in search of better ones are often just leaving the ‘bad’ circumstances that are going to happen no matter what you do and they are frequently disappointed to find out that their new relationship includes them too. So, in summary, although we marry for the good parts, the bad parts are inevitable and they are also part of the deal. You signed up for them when you stood at the alter and you need to honor your promises or the marriage is simply doomed to fail.

Finally, but on a trial mode, It wouldn't cause you anything to tell your pastor to take out that curse of making a vow for 'worse'. There is power in the tongue, life and death, good or bad. Why curse yourself on that beautiful wedding day. The man or woman you married to today, you not sure of tomorrow. Why not bless that marriage while you making such covenants on the alter and see the difference this may make.


References: Personal experiences, Marlo, family.