Cheerfully Release the Need to Be “Right”

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Cheerfully Release the Need to Be “Right”

Here’s a shocker – you’re not right. I mean, you’re partly right about most things. But you’re also partly wrong. So are we all. It’s the destiny of us not actually being Gods. We have partial perspective. We get emotional. We operate on habit.
Rather than hold on to the thrill of feeling “right” – let it go and discover the new thrills you will discover when you choose instead to be happy.

 Release Guilt in 3 Steps

Guilt is when you feel bad because of something you did. It can weigh you down like an anchor around your neck. But the past is done and what you’ve done is done. However, the residue or impact of what you’ve done may not be done. The only path to release guild is to face what you’ve done and to whom you did it. No fuzziness here. Just two simple steps (1) admit cleanly what you did, your responsibility and your feelings around it (2) ask for forgiveness (3) ask for or propose restitution.
You may not receive forgiveness, but you can release the guilt of what you’ve done now and forever.

 Let Go of Shame in 4 Steps

Shame, unlike guilt, is not that you’ve done something bad but a haunting feeling that you “are” bad at core. Releasing shame is a crucial step to living a happy, open-hearted, loving and pain free life. Brene Brown, the great shame researcher offers a 4 step process you can do over and over again, so that shame will loosen its grip on your heart.
(1) Know what shame is and call it out cleanly. And admit that you identify your essence on some level with shame.
(2) Understand what activates your feelings of shame. “For example, I can expect to be triggered as soon as I feel like I have disappointed someone or let them down.” Now you can greet it when it happens and say, ‘I get it, but not this time.’ ”
(3) Practice critical awareness. Ask yourself with your best thinking, for instance – “is it really true that I am not worthy of love because I lost this one relationship.”
(4) Reach out. Shame can’t survive being spoken. It thrives in the shadows and dies in the light. So admit it to a friend. As Brown says, “talking cuts shame off at its knees”. And you’re likely to discover that those shame feelings you thought you alone had are common to a whole lot of others!

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