For Women Only: A Happy Husband Doesn't Threaten his Relationship

Hi ladies,

Sure y'all are doing well.  Marriage especially to an African man does not give you a 100% right over your husband. If your husband does not cheat, trust me, it isn't because of you but because of the value and responsibility he had placed on himself even before he married you. So take a chill.

Remember that the western world whose culture we adopted in our Matrimonial Causes Act easily get divorced when the going is not smooth. But we have refused to toll the other part instead we resort to self-help, quarrels, nagging to the height of it all - cutting off the penis of your husband... arrrrrrrrgh!

In this light i want to draw your attention to just few signs that your husband still love you even after all these years. But first you have to take it easy.

 If you're worried he's fallen out of love, try to rest easy because it's likely not the case. Instead, he's probably down-shifted into a different kind of love. At the beginning of all successful relationships, the constant excitement of New Love produces a lot of dopamine, which is the same neurotransmitter that's stimulated when a drug addict takes their drug of choice,

Stan Tatkin a Psychologist and Author of wired for love has shared signs that show he isn't going anywhere.

HE KNOWS YOU HATE DOING THE DISHES — SO HE DOES THEM.

Rather than nagging and picking a fight with your hubby if you notice he  knows the three or four things that will always hurt you or put you off balance, and then knows just what to do to either avoid them or get you up and running again when they do happen, then consider him your antidote. If you refuse to be sensitive, then it's obvious your time in that home is over.

HE SAYS YOUR FIRST NAME DURING SEX

It's part of the norm to call each other "babe," "honey," or even "mama," throughout the day (hey, sometimes it's just easier when you have kids), but Tatkin says that if he says your first name in the midst of sex, it's a sign that he's fully present in the moment with you and doesn't want to be intimate with anyone else. Another clue? Eye contact — both in and out of the bedroom — and a willingness to talk about more personal matters (ones that involve the two of you on a relationship)

HE'S QUICK TO END AN ARGUMENT.

Ever get to a point in the argument where you know you're wrong, but you're secretly and foolishly trying to figure out a way to prove that you aren't? Your husband probably hasn't — at least not in a while — because one way he proves that he's still head-over-heels for you is, well, letting you win. "He puts you ahead of having to be right because he knows that any delay in fixing misunderstandings or hurt feelings can lead to a long-lasting memory that doesn't bode well for your future.

HE PUTS THE ELECTRONICS AWAY.

yep! that time of the night when us ladies are done snap chatting, Instagramming your date night meal. Sharing an article you like on Facebook. We are all guilty of that, but when your husband actively cuts technology out of his daily routine to spend time with you, it's a sign that he still wants to connect. Listen, when a man loves a woman, no matter how demanding his job, he knows how to put his phone down, close his laptop, and give his undivided attention. He also knows how to clear her gadgets off the bed, for whatever reason. lol!

HE NEVER SAYS THE 'D' WORD.

You've had those knock-down, drag-out fights that are way worse (and less funny) than any SNL skit, but even in the darkest of times, your husband never says the word "divorce," says Tatkin, explaining that a happy husband doesn't threaten his relationship. Why would you threaten your wife  with a divorce?

Ok guys i got to go now. duty calls... next we would be writing on how to know if your woman loves you.